Through her own parenting experience, Christy Hegarty has become an advocate for families with transgender children. During her talk at TEDxBloomington, Hegarty shares what she has learned as the mother of a transgender child. She explores the concept that we should be able to accept that our children may be different than we expect them to be and that we should not be afraid to allow them to express themselves. She challenges us to consider the idea that human evolution is more about being human than it is about being a gender and the important role acceptance plays in our evolving world.
Author: Trans* Jersey
What if gender was not divided in two?
When we’re born, a doctor instantly deems us to be one of two things: male or female. But gender isn’t just between our legs. It’s also between our ears. So, what happens when how we look on the outside clashes with how we feel on the inside? Do we settle? Do we change? And at the end of the day should gender really be as big a deal as society wants us think it is? In this talk Decker Moss explores these issues and more, as he struggled through not only one but two major gender-related transitions in his life.
Media links: Trans* Jersey welcomes equal marriage consultation
Pink News: Friday 29 August 2014
BBC Radio Jersey: Sunday 31 August 2014 (timecode: 02.09)
Channel Island equality charity Liberate and affiliate group Trans*Jersey welcome the States of Jersey’s consultation on equal marriage and partnership.
Jersey’s Chief Minister, Senator Ian Gorst, launched a public consultation on equal marriage and partnership on 20 August 2014 that will run until 22 October 2014.
Following their meeting on 29 July 2014 with Senator Gorst, Liberate and Trans* Jersey are pleased with the results of the first stakeholder meetings and the options for equal marriage in Jersey arising from those initial discussions being put forward by the Chief Minister.
Jersey Co-ordinator for Liberate Vic Tanner Davy said:
“The options being offered to the public are ones that Liberate and Trans* Jersey supports and we have already responded positively to the suggestion that Jersey introduce same-sex civil marriage and same-sex religious marriage. Although truly equal marriage would be represented by the Union Civile, we have moved away from that position because of the disturbance that its introduction would cause to the long-standing relationship of the Church of England to the Crown and the State, something that would necessitate a much bigger and longer constitutional debate.
“We are also supportive of the proposal to open up civil partnerships to opposite-sex couples. In the interests of equality, this is the only fair thing to do. It is something that the UK has not done and for Jersey to be considering this option shows how committed the Chief Minister and his department are to ensuring we get this right as an island.”
The consultation document also addresses the question of whether adultery as grounds for divorce in a marriage should be removed or redefined to ensure that same-sex couples are treated equally. The current legal position is that an opposite-sex marriage can be ended by adultery but a same-sex civil partnership cannot.
“On the question of adultery, we would like to see adultery as grounds for divorce in a marriage removed because that would equalise the grounds on which a marriage or civil partnership can be dissolved. In so doing, it would no longer relegate the sexual congress of same-sex couples to something less than that of opposite-sex couples.
“Adultery is just as emotionally damaging to same-sex relationships as it is to opposite-sex relationships but it can be covered in law by citing the grounds for divorce/dissolution as “unreasonable behaviour”. We feel that all marriages and civil partnerships would be protected from sexual infidelity via this route and, therefore, removing adultery is appropriate in the interests of equality.”
Liberate congratulates the Chief Minister and his department on the sensitivity with which they have worded the consultation and the research they have undertaken, in a very short period of time, in order to produce a comprehensive document that covers all the main permutations for equal marriage and partnerships. The consultation paper is balanced and, as far as possible, gives equal weight to the considerations of both the LGBTQ community and those religious groups who feel they cannot solemnise same-sex marriages in their place of worship.
Martin Gavet, Chairman of Liberate, said:
“Liberate is an inclusive group and we welcome members regardless of race, gender, disability, religious belief, gender identity or sexual orientation. It is, therefore, very important to us that religious groups have a means to opt-out of performing same-sex marriages and their freedom of religious belief is maintained. The options put forward by the consultation paper make it clear that places of worship will be able to opt-out in line with the position of their organisation. Having said that, we also hope that in time religious organisations, which currently oppose same-sex unions, will grow in their understanding of LGBTQ issues and the spiritual needs of some of the LGBTQ community.”
Shaving tips
A great video full of tips from ItsAMansWorldFTM. Deaddogx who presents the video uses oil to shave with but soap or gel is probably more usual. Either way, the techniques are the same.
The first in a two part series of YouTube videos by transman Riley talking about the various options for wet shaving,
Make-up application tips
This is the first in a series of seven YouTube videos made by Jennifer Cohen-Taylor about how to apply make-up for a natural everyday look. As an older transwoman herself, Jenny’s advice is great for those of you learning this skill later in life. There is nothing hopelessly ambitious in these videos. They’re not trying to give you a look that’s too young or too glamorous.
This is the first in a ten part series of YouTube videos made by Life Image Style Consulting LLC that teaches basic make-up application techniques to achieve an appropriate look for daytime. Gwen uses Sabrina, a young transwoman, as her model.
Media links: Liberate Jersey group formed
Jersey Evening Post: Friday 22 August 2014
Channel Television: Friday 22 August 2014
BBC Radio Jersey: Friday 22 August 2014
Channel 103fm: Friday 22 Augusts 2014
Channel Island equality charity Liberate is pleased to announce that its Jersey branch is now up and running.
The Jersey branch of Liberate held its first meeting on 19 August 2014. Amongst other issues, the meeting discussed the forthcoming draft of the sex discrimination law, the equal marriage and partnership consultation that was launched on 20 August 2014 and the need for a social focus for LGBTQ people in Jersey since the closure of the island’s last gay nightspot a number of years ago.
Liberate was formed in February 2014 in Guernsey and it was always the intention that there should also be a Jersey branch of the charity. Liberate Chairman, Martin Gavet, is thrilled that the charity is now truly pan-island.
“We are delighted at the news that a Jersey branch of Liberate has been established. In the short time since Liberate was founded in February 2014, we have achieved a lot for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning (LGBTQ) communities within the Channel Islands.
“We have already met with both Chief Ministers in Guernsey and Jersey about reform of laws and policies to ensure that our islands treat everyone fairly and equally under the law in dignity and rights. We are committed to uniting communities across the islands, and are an inclusive and apolitical charity.
“We do not discriminate on grounds of gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, race, disability or belief. It is great that Jersey now has formed a branch of Liberate to help to support the LGBTQ community in our sister-isle. This is a shining example of how the islands can work together on important issues affecting Channel Islanders’ daily lives”.
Co-ordinator for Liberate’s Jersey group, Vic Tanner Davy, said:
“We are looking forward to working with the committee in Guernsey on issues that affect both islands, such as the provision of LGBTQ care in old age, and educational programmes that can be delivered in schools in Jersey and Guernsey. LGBTQ rights have come a long way but there is still work to do as demonstrated by the two big political consultations that are happening currently that directly affect our community.
“We also want to provide support to those who may be questioning their sexuality and one of the ways to do that is to create a safe social space. To start to grow that initiative, we are planning a social event on 20 September 2014 at Ce Soir to try to bring back some of the community spirit that used to exist when Cosmopolitan was a social hub where people who were just coming out could go and feel safe.
“There are a lot of positive things happening for LGBTQ people in the islands at the moment from Jersey Pride to the equal marriage and partnership consultation that was launched today. It feels like the right moment for Jersey and Guernsey’s LGBTQ communities to work together to support these initiatives and to make the change happen that we want to see.”
Details of the Ce Soir event can be found on Facebook.
Liberate Jersey can be contacted at hello@liberate.gg
Tips to help you find your voice
Introduction to transgender voices and an interesting app for iPhones and Samsung Galaxy 3 that can be downloaded here.
http://youtu.be/qor7RxFQY1Y?list=UUvSW1ZQHvHHARzfqDR3T17A
What does your voice sound like to other people? Vocal coach Chris Beatty explains how you can hear what others hear.
For the guys, how to develop a deep voice:
For the girls, this is the first in a series of nine videos by DeepStealth:
States of Jersey consultation on equal marriage
The States of Jersey are currently asking for comments from the public on proposals for an equal marriage and partnership law. They have published a consultation paper, which can be downloaded here.
The consultation process closes on 22 October 2014 and the Chief Minister will report to the States in November 2014.
What the consultation does not do is ask whether a respondent is in favour of same-sex marriage. As far as the consultation is concerned that argument has been had and the island has to move on. Same-sex marriage is going to happen. It is now a question of how. The consultation paper offers a number of options for equal marriage and tackles a couple of other inequalities in current marriage law at the same time.
The consultation document is quite weighty but it is well-written and researched. It is also progressive in its thinking and doesn’t just copy what other jurisdictions have done. It offers three options for same-sex marriage:
- Same-sex civil marriage only
- Same-sex civil marriage and same-sex religious marriage
- Same-sex and opposite-sex civil marriage only (also known as civil union)
All three options provide a means for someone to transition within a marriage without having to dissolve an existing union. Trans* Jersey is most keen to ensure that any legislation brought in does not contain the so-called Spousal Veto that is enshrined within the England and Wales Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Act 2013 and that, should option 1 or 2 be adopted, any law is modeled on the Marriage and Civil Partnership (Scotland) Act 2014.
The other section of specific interest to trans* islanders is part D that deals with adultery as grounds for divorce. As people who may or may not have the genitals that are expected of a man or woman, the legal definition of adultery doesn’t always make sense within a marriage in which one or both partners are trans*. In a farsighted move, the States are proposing either doing away with adultery as grounds for divorce or redefining adultery to include same-sex acts. Clearly, removing adultery altogether is the simpler option here.
We have requested involvement in any forum convened by the States to discuss the proposed legislation and were involved in the first round of meetings on 29 July 2014.
Get involved
Whilst Trans* Jersey encourages you to complete the online survey, we would also like to receive your comments about the States’ proposal regarding equal marriage and partnerships.
We believe that by speaking together as a group of trans* islanders our comments on the consultation will carry more weight.
Our partner organisation Liberate’s Jersey group has already responded and you can read their response here.
We therefore invite you to email us with your comments, suggestions, thoughts or concerns at admin@transjersey.org
Equal Marriage update
Trans* Jersey met with Chief Minister Ian Gorst on 29 July 2014. In attendance were Senator Paul Routier, Ruth Johnson (Assistant Director, Social Policy), Martin Gavet, Ellie Jones and Pippa McCarthie from Liberate, Emma Poulliquen and Sara Garwood from the LGBTQ liaison team of the States of Jersey Police, Vicki Twohig and Mark Capern from the Youth Service, Christian May from change.je, Dr Elena Mora and Toni Roberts from Jersey Community Relations and Montfort Tadier from the Human Rights Group.
Martin Gavet opened the meeting by presenting a video produced by Liberate (below).
Vic Tanner Davy of Trans* Jersey followed this with a presentation discussing two possible options for same-sex marriage that would provide LGBT islanders with equality. You can download the Powerpoint presentation here.
The presentation started by asking the question, “they’ve got Civil Partnerships, why do they want marriage?”, which is something that has been heard more than once since the debate started. For the trans community, having a single means for two people to marry is really important as it means that divorce is no longer a requirement when someone transitions within a marriage or civil partnership. Having two “streams” (marriage for heterosexual couples and civil partnerships for homosexual couples) does not work.
The term GRC (gender recognition certificate) was explained to the meeting and its significance for trans people. It was pointed out that the state cannot ask a trans person to choose between their right to be married and their right to their GRC.
The presentation suggested two possible solutions: adopting the Scottish model (the Marriage & Civil Partnership (Scotland) Act 2014) or the Union Civile being proposed by Guernsey’s Chief Minister, Jonathan Le Tocq.
The Scottish same-sex marriage law is an improvement on the England & Wales law because it enables couples who are converting from a civil ceremony to a marriage to have a ceremony (in England & Wales you simply get a conversion certificate); it provides a route for gender recognition and converting a civil partnership into a marriage all in one process; it also contains no “spousal veto” clause; and it includes adultery as grounds for divorce (the England & Wales law ignores the possibilities of dissolution by adultery and of non-consummation of a same-sex marriage).
The meeting was informed that this was because the lawmakers could not decide how to define same-sex adultery (or non-consummation) so, rather than change the legal definition of adultery as penetrative sex, they left it out. As both Vic Tanner Davy and Ruth Johnson pointed out, if you can prosecute homosexual rape, you can define what legally constitutes homosexual sex. The meeting was in general agreement that if opposite-sex marriages can be dissolved through adultery or non-consummation so should same-sex marriages because the emotional consequences are just as devastating.
The presentation moved on to look at the proposed Union Civile in more detail. A handout explaining how the law might work and its implications can be downloaded here.
The meeting discussed the implications of the Union Civile for the Anglican church in particular. Both Liberate and Trans* Jersey are sensitive to fact that they would be the religious group most affected by the Union Civile and that its proposal could be seen by some as a first step towards disestablishing the Church of England. Having spoken to church leaders, Liberate and Trans* Jersey know that the Union Civile, although the ideal solution for many, will be a very difficult motion to put through the States.
This is why two solutions were proposed. Although the Scottish model still retains two laws for marriage, it does provide all the non-negotiable elements that we are asking for. The question then becomes, is it wise to pick a battle with the Anglican church, via the Union Civile, that possibly does not need to be had?
Ruth Johnson responded to the presentations and opened the meeting up to further discussion. She informed the meeting that the States are intending to move quickly on this because there is no good reason not to. There will be a public consultation from mid-August to mid-September that will ask the public to comment on a number of options for same-sex marriage. In addition to the two options favoured by Trans* Jersey and Liberate, there will be one that allows for two marriage “streams”, but this time divided between civil marriage and religious marriage, and one that offers civil partnerships to opposite-sex couples as well as marriages to same-sex couples.
The States are endeavouring to encompass a number of matrimonial loose ends in the consultation process, not just same-sex marriage. They also want to know whether opposite-sex couples would like civil partnerships and whether humanists and non-religious groups would like to carry out marriages.
The meeting discussed a number of issues arising from the presentation and from Ruth’s outline. There was no suggestion from those at the meeting that what the States of Jersey are proposing to publicly consult on is in any way inappropriate, although a copy of the consultation document was not available and would not be available until after the Chief Minister had met with religious leaders on 1 August 2014. It was felt by all that Ruth Johnson, in particular, had done an impressive job of understanding the issues and researching the various marriage laws to come up with a number of options.
Following the public consultation, it is anticipated that the Chief Minister will bring a report before the States at the end of September/beginning of October. Liberate and Trans* Jersey both expressed the hope that an educational presentation to States members would be possible as part of the process of bringing draft legislation before the States Chamber in order that the issues for LGBT people could be explained to members and they would have a chance to ask questions. The Chief Minister confirmed that was part of the plan.
The meeting was friendly and open with those present feeling very encouraged by what the States of Jersey are proposing to do regarding enabling every islander to have equality when it comes to marriage.
Discrimination Law update
Trans* Jersey met with Senator Francis Le Gresley on 29 July 2014. In attendance were Martin Gavet (Liberate), Ellie Jones (Liberate), Pippa McCarthie (Liberate), Kate Morel (Policy Principal, Social Security Dept) and Darren Newman (Legal Consultant).
Vic Tanner Davy presented Trans* Jersey’s response to the consultation document. You can download the Powerpoint presentation here.
The presentation started by discussing the differences between sex and gender. The consultation document uses the word “sex” when it is often referring to gender. It was felt that it would be helpful to unpack the differences in order to better understand the non-binary nature of both features for trans* people and intersex people.
The use of the “X” maker on passports and birth certificates was touched on. Trans* Jersey would like to see this option being used in Jersey but, at the moment, although it is internationally recognised and legal in the UK, it is not policy to allow people to elect to have it on their documents.
The meeting acknowledged that there are more than two genders and, because of that, some explanation and guidance on the spectrum of gender would be required to assist organisations like the Jersey Tribunal and the Jersey Advisory and Conciliation Service in their decision making. The gender grid was put forward by Trans* Jersey as one way to define multiple genders.
Trans* Jersey went on to bust three myths about trans people that had, without malice, crept into the consultation document by implication:
- That trans people’s medical and surgical histories are other people’s business, and that surgery is a requirement to be “really” trans;
- That transition has an easily definable start and end, and that it will be the same journey for every trans person;
- That trans* people cannot be trusted to use facilities marked for use by the gender they present as.
The meeting was hugely sympathetic to this last point and understood the need to ensure that the law does not accidentally enshrine discrimination around this point. It was felt that, when the draft law is debated in the States of Jersey, this point will be the one that takes up most time and causes most concern. The meeting agreed that educating the public and politicians to allay fears around this point would be helpful. The Minister and his team said that they would welcome any help Trans* Jersey and Liberate could provide in this regard.
The meeting discussed how trans people should be treated with regard to exemptions under the law for gender-specific employment and sports teams. Trans* Jersey suggested that, for those employers, such as a women’s refuge, who are exempt from discriminating when hiring, transmen should not expect to be able to be employed but that transwomen should be considered for the job along with natal born women.
Trans* Jersey explained that sports teams were still a difficult area for trans people, even at the professional level, as transwomen in particular were seen to have an unfair advantage over natal born women. In fact, research has shown this is not true. Once a transwoman starts hormone therapy, she looses the muscle bulk and testosterone advantage that she had.
In essence, for all purposes, the moment that someone self-reports as transgender they should be treated as the gender they present as – even if they are worse off. The meeting then asked about pension entitlement for trans people and Trans* Jersey said that the same rule applies. For transmen, that might mean working an extra 5 years before they are eligible for their pension.
Trans* Jersey, finally, suggested some wording, based on the UK’s Equality Act, for how the new law might be drafted.
Liberate stated their support for the consultation’s proposals on sexual orientation and asked for confirmation that maternity/paternity leave applies equally to same-sex couples as to opposite-sex couples. The Minister confirmed that same-sex couples are equally covered by the law.
The draft legislation is expected to be publicly available in February 2015.
Trans* Jersey 